Let Them

I saw this on another friends wall and read it several times before deciding to post on my own.
Today I had a young mom on my massage table and she had several tattoos but two really stood out to me.
On her shoulder she had her Nana’s favorite Bible verse and the words she would always say to her and above each elbow were the words “let go” and “let God” and, as I worked on her,I prayed for her and also prayed for those I know that are hurting and have hurt others.
Hurt people hurt, that’s the simple truth and that’s why I have always been willing to listen and reconcile and forgive and work things out.
But I’ve learned something profound in this last year- and that’s to let go, let God and let them.
I don’t and won’t hold grudges but when I’ve reached out, again ava again, without answers or replies and when it’s clear that it’s their choice- I stop. I stop sending messages, and I stop asking for answers and I stop hoping for things to change. I simply accept it and move on and let God.
I have peace either way- part of me doubts I’ll ever see them this side of heaven again, and it is what it is.
As the holidays get close, I find myself leaning on verses that mean so much. ““Do not remember the former things, or consider the things of old. I am about to do a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭43:18-19‬ ‭NRSV‬‬

So I will remember fondly the days when we gathered at the home of Mema and then at other family members, but it’s been years – Shelter in Place, Covid and other things changed that and so it’s in the past and now, it’s time to create new traditions and new deep bonds and grow close to those that want to be part of my life.
I will pray and I will leave the door open but I’m not sitting on the curb waiting to be let back in, I’m outside living my life and if anyone wants me, they can come on and catch up with me. I’m not waiting to be wanted. I already am.
“I saw these tattooson Facebook the other day and as I read the meaning behind it, my body instantly got covered in chills.
I needed this! (☕️ not the tattoo- I can’t sit still for hours getting poked- wimp! 😞)
Some of those words I needed to hear I posted below. You may need them too..

“ Let Them”

“Just Let them.
If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM.
If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM.
If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM.
If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM.
If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM.
If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM.
If they want to walk out of your life and leave,
hold the door open, AND LET THEM.

Let them lose you.
You were never theirs, because you were always your own. (☕️ damn straight!)

So let them.

Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you.
Let them prove how worthy they are of your time.
Let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life.
Let them earn your forgiveness.
Let them call you to talk about ordinary things.
Let them take you out on a Thursday.
Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to.
Let them have a safe place in you.
Let them see the heart in you that didn’t harden.
Let them love you. “

(Always☕️)

I needed this as a reminder to myself! Now every time I look down at my arm i’ll always be reminded…
Just Let Them 🖤

Author: Cassie Phillips