Open letter to men,
I want you to know that I see the ways in which we (women) have contributed to the wounding of the masculine psyche.
We don’t often recognize that while we talk about how men have hurt women in this culture, women are also hurting men.
With our words, our actions, and our unreasonable exceptions of you.
I want you to know that being vulnerable is masculine.
That to give me the gift of seeing you in your vulnerability is a blessing, not something to curse.
I want you to know that I will never tell you to “man-up” again. It must hurt to hear that when you are stumbling, you are no longer perceived as a man.
You may even be confused as to what’s expected of you now that so much has changed.
Dear men, we still want you. We still need you.
I want you to know that your energy, your presence, your commitment and your devotion show me that I am safe, protected and cared for.
I want you to know that I can hold space for you too, just like you do for me.
I can witness your emotions, sit with your tears, or be with you when you’re confused.
You are human, it’s ok if you stumble.
I will not leave you if you cry.
I want you to know that you’re not expected to perform or be ready to at all times.
Most of all, making love is about presence, it’s about passion, it’s about true connection.
Make eye contact with me when our bodies connect, show me you’re with me, give me your energy, and you will feel our passion rise to create true love.
When things go sideways let’s laugh together. Intimacy is more than just sex, it’s about kisses, snuggles, eye-gazing, and conversation. It’s many forms of expression.
I want you to know, that you are most attractive when you are fully expressed. I want to see you dance, to laugh, to play, to hug and give/receive love.
Dear men, you are safe to be yourself.
As a woman, I promise to do my best to contribute to the rising and healing of the masculine, alongside the feminine.
This is not a one sided journey. We need women to rise, and we need men. We need you too, so please show up with us.
I want you to know that I see you.
You are valuable beyond measure and the gifts you provide are different and unique to what a woman provides, and this is why communities are made up of all genders, not just men or just women.
We are meant to work together, to support one another, to cherish each others differences, not demonize them because we have false expectations that aren’t being met.
I want you to know that I will do my healing work and support women in theirs so that projections of the mother or father are not placed upon you in relationship. And I invite you to do the same.
You are not responsible for my happiness. It is not your job to “fix me”.
You have the opportunity to lead as a conscious man in this world. To demonstrate what it’s like to live with an open heart, as a humble leader with a mission.
And I believe in you.
~ Rising Woman ~
Sometimes I must share what I’ve read and how it touches my soul.
A few days ago, another woman made a post about how when a man leaves his cell phone on silent, and turned face down, and has to unlock it when he picks it up, it means he’s messing around. She didn’t know the man but had been observing him at a coffee shop. She was quick to jump all over his case by the way he had his cell phone.
I couldn’t just let it go.
“Maybe he’s deaf, maybe he’s a massage therapist, maybe he’s a First Responder and knows what happens when a phone lands in the wrong hands.
She got her panties twisted… “That’s the way most men are.”
I love men.
My best friends are men.
I’m married to a man.
I have three grown ass sons that are good men.
I know they are not perfect but neither am I or any other women out there.
When I need a real friend, it’s my guys that come.. when I’m working late, it’s my guy friends that check on me, when I’m at the gym, it’s the guys that stop by and talk to me.
Most of my clients are guys.
I realized the reason why.
I make them comfortable. They can be vulnerable and strong. They can be silent or talk to me. They can fall asleep and know they are safe.
I hold space and I hold hands. I hold secrets and I hold their regrets. I hold on when they are falling apart and I hold back the demons when they feeling attacked and alone.
I’m a man lover. I will not let men be trashed or painted with broad brushes.
I will take them as they are and make them into what they want to be.
I’m gonna stand by my man…. Every single one of them.
And that’s all I got to say about that.
👣♥️ Jeanna’ Mead
6 22 a.m. 12.18.19